Thursday, April 16, 2009

You know your son is growing up when....

1. You have to check the history on the computer or lock it with a password. (Don't ask-lol)
2. You are told "Mom, please knock on my door before you come into my room" (and he did say please)
3. Your conversations with him are basically about football, baseball, basketball, .....
4. He thinks he has to take care of you and fix all your problems. You can't even stub your toe without your hero being at your side. (This is a good one!!!!!!!)
5. The girl questions start (Mama, when did you have your first boyfriend? Would the girls like this shirt? Does my hair look ok? Does this Axe smell good? How do I make her like me?)
6. You know it is time for the talk but you aren't ready for your baby to be that grown-up.
7. He worries about his grades as much as you do.
8. His cell phone, Ipod and DSi are always near him.
9. He no longer wears jeans/basketball shorts and t-shirts to school every day.
10. He makes you proud that he has become a nice young man and you think maybe you have not caused him too much damage raising him your way. :-)

Thursday, April 9, 2009

Holidays stink when you are a single mom!

I really have gotten where I actually could careless if a holiday comes or goes. It usually means either not having the boys or having to only have them part of the time. One reason I really hate it is that I don't have that other person to share it with like their dad does. I know he misses them when they are not with him, but when they are not with me-my house is quiet and there is no one else there but me, the cat and the dog (and Vadar is outside). It just throws everything that has happened over the past 5 years back in my face and I really don't like that or think it is fair. This whole way of life was not my idea or my wish, but it is funny that I am the one that pays for it.

Oh by the way, Happy Easter!

Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Homework Blues

I know every parent complains about homework some time or another but I have a problem with much more than the assignments. If both boys have homework and they are working on it at the same time, a battle begins. They both want my attention 100%. I hear "I need help" "I don't know how to do this" "Mom what does this mean?" even when I know it is something they know how to do (For example Preston makes 100 on almost all of his math quizzes at school but when he gets home with the homework pages facts even become a 30 minute ordeal). Neither have any motivation on getting their homework done on their own. I have even done the terrible mom thing and let them go to school without it and always my luck that is the day the teacher doesn't grade it. Homework is suppose to help the student not stress the parent but since Harrison started school that is all it has ever been around my house. It is the cause for tears, headaches, shouting matches and even those terrible words "You just don't care about me" (we all hear those don't we parents-guess it is pay back). I just think if there was another adult in my house that homework might be an easier process. I may be wrong it might even be harder but at least I would have someone to share my stress with and I wouldn't feel like the world's worst parent on my own.

Saturday, April 4, 2009

Have I totally lost my mind?

For Harrison's birthday I offered ( I must have been out of it) to let him have a sleep over party; therefore tonight I have 5 Pre-teen boys and Preston in my house. They have two TVs in Harrison's room playing non stop video games and I continue to hear the drums being played and each time I look it is a different boy playing them. Oh boy, now the electric guitar has started. BUT HERE'S THE AMAZING THING....Preston is laying in the floor in the den being quiet. I think he is just gaining his 2nd wind.

Actually it is kind of nice hearing Harrison have a great time with all his friends. Makes me feel like a successful parent.

P.S. I don't think any man could survive this, but since I am an old pro at sleep overs this should be fun.